Can you be lonely in a relationship

We look at our relationship and realize: we still feel lonely. There are a number of ways we can end up in relationships that make us feel lonely. When we meet someone new, our need to feel accepted can accidentally warp how we present ourselves. In fear of being rejected, we subconsciously present the best version of what we think someone wants from us — without asking ourselves if we really care what this particular person thinks, or how we feel about them.

Although our relationships can provide us with human contact, we often still feel lonely because we enter relationships without being connected with ourselves. Thus, we cannot feel fully understood by our partner. Also, in fear of rejection, we often fail to set clear boundaries with our partners — boundaries which, again, come from knowing ourselves.

By honoring our own best interests, we set an example for how we need to be treated. And, we allow ourselves to honor the best interests of our partner, in turn. Many of us have entered relationships and over time become disconnected from our friends and families.

We find ourselves unconsciously asking our partner to fill the void and provide all that support to us, themselves. Are You Married But Lonely? All insurance policies and group benefit plans contain exclusions and limitations. For availability, costs and complete details of coverage, contact a licensed agent or Cigna sales representative. This website is not intended for residents of New Mexico.

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What are the signs of loneliness in a relationship? What causes a lonely relationship? Here are some of the factors that can lead to feeling lonely in a marriage or relationship: Intimacy fizzles: Some relationships just lose their spark. If you feel a loss of connection and affection, you may be left simply going through the motions. Intimacy plays a big part in getting deeply connected. View cookie policy. Subscribe to Femina. Image: Shutterstock Loneliness is an emotion with multiple and complex definitions and experiences.

When we are in a relationship, all of us expect a long-term companionship with warmth and a sense of security. Mutual understanding, deep connection, good communication and stability, among other things, are important too.