Who said hurt people hurt people

This is not intended as a judgment of anyone, and I am not saying that anyone is inherently better or more valuable than anyone else. Yet there does seem to be an upward-spiraling path of human development , and as you progress along this path—as you heal yourself and increase awareness—you increasingly become a healing presence in the world. Art by David Revoy. So the archetypal medicine wo man, or wise healer, according to McKenna, is a person who was once sick—and therefore knows what it is to be sick—but who has healed themselves.

Having healed themselves, they are then able to assist in the healing of others. Similarly, as we heal and release our traumas, and as we gain awareness of our patterns of thought, emotion, and behavior, we act less and less from a place of unconsciousness, and thus we cause less and less harm. As we gradually penetrate through our many layers of ego, persona, defense mechanisms, conditioning, and indoctrination, we begin to get in touch with our center: Unconditional love, the light of pure consciousness, the infinite wellspring of creative potential at the center of Being.

When we are in touch with this center and allowing it to flow through us and animate us —when our actions arise organically from this deep soul-level place—everything we do becomes increasingly infused with love, peace, joy, and creativity.

We cease to force things, trusting ourselves to the flow of life, acting from a pure place, and loosening the grip of our expectations and attachments to particular outcomes. We surrender to the River of Being, and paradoxically, in surrendering—in letting go of control—we blossom into fuller and more honest expressions of ourselves.

As this process unfolds, we heal ourselves further, and our presence begins to heal others. Without needing to speak explicitly about our process, we become akin to beacons signaling the truth that a different way of being is possible, magnetizing others who are ready for change. Things arise and she lets them come; things disappear and she lets them go.

When her work is done, she forgets it. That is why it lasts forever. By simply radiating kindness and love, we are engaging in an act of deep service, contributing to the healing of humanity and of the planet, initiating ripple effects that extend beyond what we might imagine.

It may sound cliche, but love truly is the most powerful healing force in the world. Simply spending time with people who listen carefully and non-judgmentally—who truly endeavor to see and understand the heart of another — is immensely healing for human beings.

Throughout history many have left breadcrumbs pointing to the truth of the astounding healing power of love and compassion. Hurt people have the emotional maturity of the age they received their un-dealt with hurt. For example, if a girl was raped by a man when she was 12 years old, unless she forgives that man and allows Christ to heal her heart and allay her fears, in that particular area of her life sexuality with a man her emotional growth will stop.

Even when she reaches her later years she may still have the emotional maturity of a 12 year-old. Hurt people are often frustrated and depressed because past pain continually spills over into their present consciousness. In many instances, they may not even be aware of why they are continually frustrated or depressed because they have coped with pain by compartmentalizing it or layering it over with other things over time.

Hurt people often attempt to medicate themselves with excessive entertainment, drugs, alcohol, pornography, sexual relationships, or hobbies as a way to forget their pain and run from reality. Until the church learns to deal with and emphasize the emotional life and health of the believer, the church will be filled with half-Christians who pray and read the Bible but find no victory because they do not face the woundedness in their souls. Often their private life is different from their public life, which causes hypocrisy and compounds feelings of guilt, condemnation, and depression.

Hurt people are often self-absorbed with their own pain and are unaware that they are hurting other people. Helen Boyd? Doug Manning? Emotions Anonymous? Barbara Johnson? Dear Quote Investigator: People who have been hurt or damaged in life sometimes respond by striking out and hurting the people who are around them.

A concise adage expresses this viewpoint:. This statement been ascribed to pastor Rick Warren, minister Will Bowen, and rabbi Yehuda Berg who are all bestselling authors. Would you please explore this topic? Quote Investigator: These three influential religious figures have all employed the saying, but only after it was circulating.

The earliest match located by QI appeared in an Amarillo, Texas newspaper in One of the speakers was named Charles Eads. Boldface added to excerpts by QI : 1. And he said the human anatomy is a most peculiar mechanism. If you pat it on the back it often makes the head swell. Then he made a statement that might give pause to a student of psychology.

It is possible that Charles Eads coined the saying; alternatively, he was simply repeating a phrase he had heard previously. Psychologist Helen Boyd was the director of the group called Parents Assistance: 2.

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